My Journey: Hard Lessons Learned!

February 15, 2011

Hard Lessons Learned!

As one's home and workplace expresses one's physical, psychological, and spiritual condition, understanding how the qualities and the flow of energy (or lack thereof) in personal spaces affects your mood and mental state can lead to creating a more harmonious, nurturing environment.

I'm going to get this back and never lose it again....

I have learned a few hard (very hard) lessons the past 3 1/2 yrs. I've lost some pretty signficant loved ones that their lives where taken too soon. I miss them terribly. I've been knocked down or shoved aside by friends that I let too close but I seem to manage to get back up! I guess I tend to just throw myself into my work and my family daily to make the feeling of abandoment go away. All in all I'm becoming to think that people are just out for #1. I really don't want to be one of those people. My problem is that I don't put myself #1 and I lose sight of where I was headed. I get off my path and onto someone else's because I want to make sure that they are happy & content which I guess I think makes me happy & content which in reality is not the case. I'm a people pleaser, a caretaker, a servant. Ha, I own a B&B so guess that's fitting isn't it. But here it goes after the past few days of current events in my workplace & family life and with a very close circle of friends, I really am going to have to learn that I am not a savior.

I have to give up this role that I so strongly have the need to fulfill. Why is that? Sure everyone has a past history of family events but is that why I was put here on earth? To be strong and help others achieve their dreams as well. I always try to be an encourager, a supporter, a reassuring kind of friend. But in the end people are always going to choose their path and even though it's not the path I would have chose

to go down. It's not my journey, it's theirs. So my lesson is to be a friend, not a protector, not a enabler, and certainly not a savior. I'll leave that up to God and the Universe.

I am not angry, yes I will be sad for awhile but all in all I wish everyone the best!

"Quotes that I live by"

When one door closes another opens. But often we look so long so regretfully upon the closed door that we fail to see the one that has opened for us.
Helen Keller

There is time for everything.
Thomas A. Edison

I demolish my bridges behind me...then there is no choice but to move forward.
Firdtjof Nansen

Nothing can bring you peace but yourself.
Ralph Waldo Emerson

The worst thing you can try to do is cling to something that is gone, or to recreate it.
Johnette Napolitano

You cannot step twice into the same river, for other waters are continually flowing on.
Heraclitus

Happiness does not depend on outward things, but on the way we see them.
Leo Tolstoy

The art of living lies less in eliminating our troubles than in growing with them.
Bernard M. Baruch

Imagination is more important than knowledge.Albert Einstein
We don't live in a world of reality,we live in a world of perceptions.
Gerald J. Simmons

The first and greatest commandment is,Don't let them scare you.
Elmer Davis

You have enemies? Good. That means you’ve stoop up for something, somewhere in your life.

To improve is to change, to be perfect it to change often.

Problems are the price we pay for progress.

Happiness depends on ourselves

Happiness grows at our own firesides and is not to be picked in strangers gardens

To be happy we must not be too concerned with others

Never say more than is necessary

Phrases to live by and repeat to yourself daily if necessary!

1. There are at least two people in this world that you would die for.

2. At least 15 people in this world love you in some way.

3. The only reason anyone would ever hate you is because they want to be just like you.

4. A smile from you can bring happiness to anyone, even if they don'tlike you.

5. Every night, SOMEONE thinks about you before they go to sleep.

6. You mean the world to someone.

7. You are special and unique.

8. Someone that you don't even know exists loves you.

9. When you make the biggest mistake ever, something good comes from it.

10. When you think the world has turned its back on you, take another look.

11. Always remember the compliments you received..Forget about the rude remarks.

And always remember.....When life hands you lemons, Ask for Gin and Ginger beer and call me over!!

Good friends are like stars.....You don't always see them, But you know they are always there.

'Whenever God Closes One Door He Always Opens Another, Even ThoughSometimes It's Hell in the Hallway.

'I would rather have one rose and a kind word from a friend while I'm here than a whole truck load when I'm gone.

Happiness keeps You Sweet, Trials keep You Strong, Sorrows keep You Human, Failures keeps You Humble, Success keeps You Glowing, But OnlyGod keeps You Going

In Loving Memory of one of my dearest and closest friends

Kelly & Lacie

To the "Treehouse Girls" Through our journey with Julie's passing the three of us were by her side each and every day of the last two months of her life. We laughed, we cried, we questioned, we sobbed but through it all we gained major strength and were given new relationships with each other to move forward with. We have each other now to remember our dear friend. To watch over Audrey and shower her with love. Julie named us her treehouse girls. We each have a key to hold onto. A key to Julie's heart and soul. This was something we giggeled about in hospice. We were in the treehouse. You had to have the password to come in. It made Julie feel safe and gave her some sense of relief, to feel like she really wasn't where she was at. One day we will all be together in the Big Treehouse Jewels. Until then hold down the fort.